They DO NOT Know What’s Best for You
You’re the only one.
Sit with that a moment. Let that sink in.
Most of us don’t even believe it because we’ve gotten so confused about shoulds and wants and can’ts and won’ts that we don’t trust ourselves anymore. It’s so well-meaning, too.
As you read last time, I was good at math and science. My parents suggested civil engineering as a path to consider. I read about it, but it didn’t seem very interesting to me. Remember how I’d wanted to take art classes but “I couldn’t” because I was in the honors math and sciences? I thought about bridging the gap a bit and look into graphic design, but then I found it! Model Building in the Industrial Technology department at BSU. Yes, the initials of my college are B.S.U.
Two years, or maybe a year and a half, into it, I was over it. I switched to art and finally did what I wanted. I’d finally had enough of other people telling me what to do. (Were they, though? Or was that just my belief about what they would like me doing most?) My reason for changing was, “I don’t want people telling me what to do.” I majored in Art with an emphasis in oil painting. I majored in Spanish as well for no reason other than I liked it and wanted to. If I was doing what I “should” do by getting that degree, by golly I was going to do it how I wanted. I’d had a major in business too, but I couldn’t stand most of the people in my classes and I was getting tired of being in college, so I changed that to a minor and went on my merry way.
Then I kept just doing what I wanted and lived a life of freedom and bliss all the days thereafter. Not. They don’t stop telling you what’s best for you! Who? You know who. Your family, friends, bosses, society, spiritual gurus, the voices of logic in your head, all of them!
Do you know how difficult it is to do all of the things you want to do? The things that you know are best for you? I know, and I’m still knowing today.
Who tells you what to do? Tell me. Don’t judge (I won’t). Be out with it. Who do you believe knows what’s best for you better than you do? I’ll give you a hint, they’re the reason(s) you aren’t doing what you know is best for you.